Five Things Adoptive Parents Don’t Tell You
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1.1 Adoption is hard work.
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1.1 Adoption is hard work. Video Lesson (4:27)
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1.2 What you see in public is not an accurate picture of our home life.
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1.2 What you see in public is not an accurate picture of our home life. Video Lesson (5:17)
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1.3 Our children are not excessively thankful, in fact, sometimes quite the opposite.
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1.3 Our children are not excessively thankful, in fact, sometimes quite the opposite. (5:54)
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1.4. We adoptive parents have to parent differently than traditional parents. We may seem to the outsider over strict or over protective.
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1.4. We adoptive parents have to parent differently than traditional parents. We may seem to the outsider over strict or over protective. Video Lesson (5:11)
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1.5 Adopted children are valuable.
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1.5 Adopted children are valuable. Video Lesson (5:25)
Five Things Your Adopted Children Would Like to Tell You
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2.1 I am in sensory overload. I’m overwhelmed and I am about to blow a gasket.
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2.1 I am in sensory overload. I’m overwhelmed and I am about to blow a gasket. Video Lesson (5:10)
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2.2. I’m not behaving to make you mad. Most of the time, it is because I don’t have self regulation skills. I maintain my control by keeping you out of control.
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2.2. I’m not behaving to make you mad. Most of the time, it is because I don’t have self regulation skills. I maintain my control by keeping you out of control. (5:16)
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2.3 You are not responsible for the trauma that happened to me before I came into your home, but I will act like it. If you let guilt rule the home, we both be miserable and neither of us will experience any healing.
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2.3 You are not responsible for the trauma that happened to me before I came into your home, but I will act like it. If you let guilt rule the home, we both be miserable and neither of us will experience any healing. Video Lesson (5:15)
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2.4 If you feel what I feel all the time, we will become codependent and I will rule your emotions like an out-of-control terrorist.
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2.4 If you feel what I feel all the time, we will become codependent and I will rule your emotions like an out-of-control terrorist. Video Lesson (5:21)
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2.5 I do want to be loved and accepted. It is my deepest desire, just like anyone else on the planet, but I don’t know how to get there. Will you help me?
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2.5 I do want to be loved and accepted. It is my deepest desire, just like anyone else on the planet, but I don’t know how to get there. Will you help me? Video Lesson (5:35)
Five Things You Can Do to Help an Adoptive/Foster Family
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3.1 Host a shower for the foster/adoptive family.
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3.1 Host a shower for the foster/adoptive family Video Lesson (5:08)
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3.2 Fill in for the family commitments while they get acclimated.
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3.2 Fill in for the family commitments while they get acclimated. Video Lesson (5:20)
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3.3 Don’t have expectations for the new adopted or foster children.
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3.3 Don’t have expectations for the new adopted or foster children. Video Lesson (5:10)
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3.4. Don’t judge the parents by the child’s behavior.
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3.4. Don’t judge the parents by the child’s behavior. Video Lesson (5:27)
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3.5. On the other hand, don’t be fooled by a child’s superficially, engaging behavior.
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3.5. On the other hand, don’t be fooled by a child’s superficially, engaging behavior. Video Lesson (5:26)
